The problem is that most people don't really know what good communication is. "Answer me so I know you're listening" is basic. But talking and listening are essential tools for learning about your partner's feelings, making your feelings known and solving problems that arise within a relationship. In the following brief case study, I explore the "Answer me so I know You're listening" technique."Come on, Tom, answer me so I know you're listening. You don't have to be so rude or disinterested. Do you think you can help clean the bathroom this weekend?" Alice asks. "Tom, are you listening?" "Hey, come on Alice, of course I'm listening," says Tom."Well, why … [Read more...]
Stop groping me
Do you object to your man squeezing your boobs from behind? Have you felt kind of manhandled? Have you told him to "STOP groping me!" Is it appropriate to put up with your husband's inappropriate behavior because it's the only way you can get a hug or kiss from him? Pat would often come up behind Bev whilst she was working in the kitchen and give her a big hug from behind and reach around and squeeze her boobs. Bev thought she was meant to enjoy this affection from Pat, but actually she was irritated by it. Especially when she was in the middle of preparing dinner and her mind was a long way from sexual activity. But she never told him, "Stop groping me!" She never said anything to Pat, … [Read more...]
Communicating Effectively Will Win Over Your Partner
Communicating effectively will stop the fightsAlan and Di, who had 2 children under 6, were sick of fighting and decided to separate. They agreed to see a counsellor to facilitate the process, believing that having a mediator would reduce the amount of conflict in their discussions.When the counsellor asked why they had come, they said straight up, “We want to separate while we can still talk to each other civilly. We both think that’s important, so that we can continue to communicate appropriately and respectfully to each other about the children, as they grow up. We both care how this separation will impact on the kids.”They told the counsellor it was because of the fights they had, the … [Read more...]
Congratulations on being you!
Honey realized from a very young age, that she was creative and that this gift, was being HER! Congratulations on being you! So to all those who struggle, know this is who you are, and your creativity gives you a personality. I read a wonderful article the other day in the Weekend Australian Magazine (April 20-21) about a woman who has recently become a recognised author, and this BECAUSE of a disability rather than IN SPITE of it. Honey Brown (her real name, proposed by her dad after seeing a great ad for honey on a galvanised iron shed over 40 years ago!) was left a paraplegic after being crushed by a cow on their farm in Victoria, 5 years ago, when her children were still little. … [Read more...]
A personal trauma
How to start healing after a personal trauma It is very common, in fact quite normal, for people to experience emotional aftershocks when they have passed through a horrible event You may have experienced a personal trauma - a traumatic event (an injury, loss of a loved one or property, a serious threat, or any overwhelming emotional experience). Even though the event may be over, you may now be experiencing, or may experience later, some strong emotional or physical reactions. It is very common, in fact quite normal, for people to experience emotional aftershocks when they have passed through a horrible event. Sometimes the emotional aftershock (or … [Read more...]
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