Create a strong and intimate marriage You know the fairytale… you grow up and get married and live happily ever after…NOT SO! Sometimes not even the wedding is a fairy tale. Because it’s common that partners experience relationship problems even BEFORE they say ‘I do’. Was that the case with you?Or perhaps you have changed partners – several times? That’s OK, we can’t always get it right the first time. People change, and so the nature of a relationship will change, and feelings for your partner do too.But then you find your Soulmate.Your Soulmate is the partner you believe at a deep level that you will be with for a very long time. In fact you cannot imagine … [Read more...]
How to get over betrayal in a marriage
The worst kind of hurt is betrayal Infidelity is the betrayal our society focuses on, but it is actually the subtle, unnoticed betrayals that truly ruin relationships. Partners may be aware of this disloyalty to each other, but dismiss it because it’s “not as bad as an affair.”Yet anything that violates a committed relationship’s contract of mutual trust, respect, and protection can be disastrous. When partners do not choose each other day after day, with each giving priority to the other, trust and commitment erode away.The worst kind of relationship hurt is betrayalThis may not be another romantic connection. It may be giving priority to someone other than your … [Read more...]
Improve Communication Skills
How to improve communication skills with your partner I remember as a child, my mum would tell us kids, “You were born with 2 ears and one mouth so use them in that same proportion!”At the time, I thought that was a clever way of telling us kids to keep quiet!Now as an adult and relationship counsellor, I still think it’s a clever way of telling people to keep quiet!Because the best relationship communication technique of all is to use your two ears – to listen.And I mean REALLY listen. Listen to hear what the other person is trying to tell you. Listen to learn about what is important to them, or to what is bothering them. Listen instead of jumping to conclusions … [Read more...]
Letting Go of Resentment In My Marriage
Overcoming resentment Feelings of resentment can definitely poison a relationship. Waking up next to someone and feeling annoyed by their presence because of something they’ve done is truly no way to live. Hence the importance of learning ways of overcoming resentment.I need to find ways of letting go of resentment in my marriage… The big question is – why do I resent my partner? What causes resentment in the first place?Resentment is an unresolved hurt, and causes physical pain whenever you think of the event or situation that caused the hurt. You can also feel hurt by something your partner has NOT done when you thought they could have or should have.In … [Read more...]
How To Communicate Better
How important is it for him to communicate with you? I remember a time when my husband, Mike’s correct communication just melted away all my emotional hurt. I’ve never forgotten it because it had such a big impact on me! Mike had been away from home for 3 weeks. He was travelling with his 81 year old mother in the US and Canada, visiting his elderly auntie and meeting some of his cousins for the first time.I had totally supported the trip, even offering to pay for his mother’s flight. I believed it was a wonderful opportunity for them to make some memories together before she was too old to travel any more. I stayed home to care for the children and continue … [Read more...]
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