Is Your Relationship Worth Saving?

Are You Feeling A Low Priority or Are You Just “Marking Time” In Your Relationship? If You Are In A Disconnected Relationship, Have Unresolved Hurts, Poor Communication Or Are Feeling Unloved…

Karen Gosling from Relationship Counselling Gold Coast can help you!

Are you feeling crushed over something your partner said or did to you? Is the hurt unresolved, festering and churning inside you, increasing your emotional pain and distancing you from your partner? Do you want this issue (and others) to be resolved?

Is the following situation something that you can relate to?

Kelly felt hurt when Jim put her down in front of friends at dinner the other night. Jim made a comment that was meant to pass as a joke but underneath was intended to be hurtful. Jim had started doing this a few years after they were married. This was the last straw – she’d had enough of his bickering and put-downs and decided to seek counselling from Relationship Counselling Gold Coast to stop the bickering and fix their relationship.

relationship counselling gold coastNone of us enter into a relationship thinking it will end. In the beginning, when we’re first in love, we experience a sense of aliveness and vitality believing it will be solid enough to last forever and through any crisis.

But bad things do happen to good people. Sometimes hurt feelings and emotional pain or anguish does happen. Ongoing hurts and put downs can destroy your relationship. It can even leave you feeling allergic to your partner.

And if you ignore the hurts as a way of keeping the peace, then you will produce precisely the opposite effect of what you seek: to be loved and to feel good about yourself. Instead, you end up spending much of your time feeling lousy, unloved, devalued, and inadequate. 

So just what has gone wrong to cause bickering and resentments to build up in your relationship to this point where you’re now on the brink of separation or divorce? If you’ve spent much of your time feeling ignored, a low priority, frustrated, irritated, and inept, you are on the wrong side of the tracks. It’s time for a reboot!

Over more than 30 years as a Relationship Counsellor I’ve discovered there are 3 things that contribute to the breakdown of a relationship:

1. Unresolved hurt feelings

What I call low intensity ongoing warfare that leads to resentments – strong negative emotions that you experience when you remember an incident from the past that really hurt, that has never been resolved. As resentments build inside us, our desire for love from the one causing the hurts falls away. Read more about unresolved hurt feelings…

2. Poor communication in your relationship

A failure to listen long enough, or with sufficient understanding of your partner’s feelings, to really understand the issue and accept as true what your partner tells you about his or her feelings, rather than simply denying their feelings. Women want men to listen and negotiate bringing closeness and collaboration. But men cannot JUST listen for more than 10 – 15 minutes, before tuning out. Men don’t always realize that their wives are expecting an answer, particularly if she keeps on talking. Read more about poor communication in relationships…

3. Not speaking your partner’s “love language”

We all have a basic need for love, affection, and esteem. More often than not we don’t know the different ways in which our partner wants to have his or her need for love met. So because your partner is not receiving good feelings from you, he or she will start to move away. One way to get your partner back on track is to speak his or her love language. Read more about identifying your partners primary love language…


But first, what have you tried to do already to reset this negative pattern?

If you want to STOP the bickering and end unresolved hurt feelings or improve poor communication in your relationship, here are my 5 top tips…

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Get clarity about the negative emotions you feel and understand why you feel what you feel (and how you can start to change those feelings).

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Regain control over your emotions to instantly restore peace and calm in your life and relationship. Get more sleep - People who are sleep deprived tend to experience more negative emotions.

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FINALLY put an end to lowered self-esteem, being fearful, angry or anxious around your partner. It’s time to be emotionally free again!

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SILENCE your inner voice – make decisions to improve the way you feel. (Time to tell your inner voice to take a walk!)

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Learn quickly how to reconnect with your partner, feel more loved, and end YOUR emotional pain through resolving resentments, knowing his or her love language, and developing effective communication techniques. (You CAN fix this!)

If you live on the Gold Coast and you need relationship counselling Karen Gosling can help you save your relationship.

Karen helps put you in charge of your life so that upsetting events can be resolved, you heal emotionally, and your body doesn’t always feel those strong emotions. 

Over the last 30 years I have counselled 2,643 couples from 85 nationalities and have seen the changes of what works and what doesn’t and have learnt the best way to fix unresolved hurt feelings and poor communication to reconnect with your soulmate.

When you love the relationship you have, you have everything you need!

If you would like any assistance to fix your relationship then please get in touch. I offer face-to-face or Skype Relationship Counselling at Labrador, Gold Coast where I can teach you how to handle unresolved hurts, be engaged for longer in your conversations, and speak your partner’s love language.

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