Is your marriage in crisis? Meet Therapist Karen Gosling. You're probably browsing around this site because your troubled marriage has reached a crisis point and you're looking for some counselling help. You’ve had some concerns for a while about where your relationship is going, and you’ve been arguing more, or been more irritable and snitchy with one another. Or it could be that you are just feeling more distant than you once were, less connected.But now there is a crisis. She has told you she is unhappy and doesn’t love you now the way she did before. And that she doesn’t know if she can go on being this unhappy.Or it could be that he has told you that … [Read more...]

Think You CAN’T Change Him? Wanna Bet? Now it’s time to FINALLY put an end to your furious and exasperated feelings with your partner and replace them with feeling smart about how to change him unbelievably fast… How often do you find yourself saying, “I can’t put up with him any longer” or “I wish he wouldn’t react like that”?Are you caught in a constant struggle over feeling frustrated and despairing in your relationship?Do you hate wasting time and energy trying to deal with him?Have you reached the point where you’re starting to lose hope of ever having peace or a connection with him again any time soon, because your man is always driving you crazy – or … [Read more...]

Are addictions ruining your relationships with your loved ones or family? Get out of the addiction cycle and start to feel good again.Addiction of all types is a highly complex problem that affects the physical, emotional, behavioral and mental health of individuals and also their families and social environments. There are many areas of life where a person may experience problems with addiction.To generalize, it is easiest to call an addictive substance or behavior an Addictive Agent (AA).Some of the agents of addiction include: Alcohol, illegal substance (drugs), legal substances (glue, cough mixture), shopping, exercise, overeating, under eating, work, … [Read more...]

She always blames me and everything is always my fault in our relationship The person who is a blamer is unable to see that their own behavior contributes to their own misfortune or misery. They’re very quick to blame somebody else and never accept responsibility for their unhappiness or lack of success in any area of their life.The blamer is often unhappy, and genuinely believes the reason to be because someone has not met their expectations of doing or saying things that makes them feel good. They believe it is someone else’s responsibility to make them happy. In a close relationship, that’s you, which explains why if something goes wrong, or if she’s not happy, … [Read more...]

Why do so many people get hung up and hurt about “poor communication”? Poor communication paves the way to disconnection in relationships.How often have you heard, “Oh my mum and I have never been able to communicate”? Or “My boyfriend and I get on great, but our communication is pretty shit.”Animals and birds seem to communicate effectively, so what it is about us humans that makes communication so difficult?Well, unlike animals and birds that communicate just for survival (“look out, the enemy is near” or “come over here and check out this food source!”) – we humans communicate for a number of other reasons:to ask (seek information)to tell (give information)to … [Read more...]