What women do when they’re emotionally neglected What are women looking for in their man? They want a soul mate, someone they trust who is there for them when they have a problem, who takes their feelings into account when decisions are being made. Someone to whom they feel emotionally connected. What does being “emotionally unavailable” mean?Being emotionally available is not that easy for many men, who mostly desperately want to connect with spouses, friends, and family in a meaningful way.However, often men have no model of what that looks like, what language to use, and how to do it.In America, statistics reveal that women file for divorce twice as often as … [Read more...]

I need to stop being insecure and jealous because it’s damaging my relationship with my husband Case Study Ted and Gina came for counseling as Ted was fed up with Gina’s insecurities regarding him being with other women. He had set Gina an ultimatum – get counseling or get out. He had had enough of her insecurities, jealousy, suspicions and accusations, her questioning and double-checking. He felt that he scarcely had a life of his own any more, as Gina was always asking him where he had been, who he had been with and what he had talked about.To him, all Gina’s questions of jealousy seemed crazy – and Gina admitted in the counseling session that her suspicions … [Read more...]

Consider what it is that YOU are experiencing in your relationship – Is it infatuation (limerence) or love? 1. How long have you been with your partner? Infatuation (limerence) lasts just long enough for a couple to get together, for the woman to be impregnated and a baby to be born.Then, theoretically, leaving the female to raise the offspring, the man can be off again to find another mate, and, by doing what comes naturally, ensure diversity of the species. Infatuation, Limerence or Lust is the human version of the mating instinct. 2. Is yours a “secret” relationship? Extramarital affairs are real hotbeds of limerence. Although the intense … [Read more...]

The importance of communication in relationships We use communication to gain information (things we need to know in order to fill our needs, satisfy our interests, and to survive) and to pass on information (to fill other’s needs, or to share an experience). Communication takes many forms – sign language, body language (both unconscious and deliberate), written/emailed, art, dance, and music.The spoken word in any language, that is, verbal communication, conveys only about 12% of the content of any message or information that is imparted. The rest is conveyed non-verbally, either in tone, inflection, manner, or body language.And that’s for females, who spend … [Read more...]

Have you read this anywhere before – that communication is the key to any relationship I first saw it years ago in a Nokia mobile phone advertisement. And its message is valid! No communication, no relationship. The communication can be verbal, written, sign language or body language… communication in a relationship is the main thing. Without it, you’re just two people. Relationships fail for three main reasons:unresolved hurts,ineffective communication,and not giving love according to your partner’s need for love.It is through the expression of words, said in the right way, and heard in the correct way, that old hurts disappear, and minds and souls … [Read more...]