Emotional Intelligence is an emerging idea and as such there is no absolute definition for it According to Dr John Mayer, personality psychologist attached to the University of New Hampshire (United States) “Emotional Intelligence is a group of mental abilities which help you to recognize and understand your own feelings, as well as others; ultimately, EI leads to the ability to regulate your feelings.” There are two sides to EI – the intellect understanding emotion and using the intellect to bring about creative thoughts and ideas. Individuals high in EI pay attention to, use, understand, and manage emotions, and these skills serve adaptive functions that … [Read more...]

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How well are you managing personal emotions affecting your personal and work place relationship? Everything in life is about what you feel … If you’re experiencing positive emotions, that’s great … This is a non-problem status. Enjoy your life! If you’re feeling negative emotions … you are emotionally constipated and experiencing the physical effects of negative emotion (stress). Personal emotions represent bodily feelings experienced as arousal of the nervous system. Stress involves an emotional reaction, especially a reaction involving negative emotions. No one else can experience your feelings in the same … [Read more...]

How to deal with oppositional behaviour “NO WAY, NEVER, YOU CAN’T MAKE ME DO IT” Are you sick of hearing this in your household? Many parents tell me they are tired of arguing with their children. But if you ask the child, “How many times out of ten, when your mother (father, teacher) asks you to do something, will you do it the first time without arguing or fighting?”, many will tell you, “Not many times, maybe two or three out of ten.”And then if you ask them why, they tell you they have no idea why they do it, that it is not their goal to be oppositional.No wonder parents get confused not knowing how to deal with oppositional behaviour.Oppositional behavior … [Read more...]

I just want to be happy Have you noticed that some people seem to have everything, but they’re still not happy? And yet you meet other people who have very little, but their lives seem full of love and laughter – and they sure seem to be happy! Why is that?What is happiness anyway? If you were truly happy, how would you know? What would be different in your life? Would you have greater wealth? Or better health? Would you have lots of friends or be going on regular holidays?Some people have no wealth, poor health, and never go on holiday – but they are happy!So perhaps they have less stress than others? Or more family support?Look again, that is not always the … [Read more...]

Stress symptoms checklist Do you know when you feel stressed? Can you identify whereabouts in your body you feel your stress? Some people feel it in their chest first, or their neck and shoulders. Others get tightness in their head, which fast becomes a headache. Or another person may feel their heart start to palpitate resulting in a “buzzy” type of feeling. (A lady once came to see me because she thought she had MS – but it was stress! And her response was, “Well, I’m fed up with being stressed”!)Stress is the sensation our body has when it is aroused with adrenalin, produced by the adrenal glands on top of the kidneys, when your brain interprets that there is … [Read more...]