When your relationship started you never considered that indifference could wreck your relationship? You used to talk about everything and never ran out of things to say, right?You plotted ways to be together because you couldn’t get enough of each other, remember? You stole moments with each other, talking way into the night… ... Or if you couldn’t get together, you spent hours on the phone. You would discuss yourselves, your past, your relationships with friends and family, your hopes and dreams, disappointments, failures…in fact, everything!Why was it so easy? Because you believed that your partner really wanted to find out all about you. You felt secure that no … [Read more...]

Some men just don’t know the language of emotions to talk about their feelings This is what women often complain to one another: “He never talks about his feelings!” Well, perhaps he can’t. Perhaps he doesn’t know the words to describe his feelings.And if he doesn’t, he won’t be able to even think about his feelings, let alone talk to you about them.Think about when you are waiting to have a blood test and you feel a bit NERVOUS – that is a feeling.Or if you arrive late for a meeting and someone makes a sarcastic comment to you about you always being late, you feel EMBARRASSED – that is a feeling.But if I ask you to describe those feelings in Spanish, you may … [Read more...]

Making the decision … Should I stay or should I go? Making the decision to leave a relationship is a very daunting process, and is the one that fills us with a great deal of anxiety. This is because the choice of free will brings with it enormous responsibility. We realize that our choice will affect our partner, our families, our children and our friends – it is a responsibility we must live with all our lives. The process of choosing to stay or to leave often begins in “the gut”.Somehow your body knows, often months or even years before you think seriously about taking any action, that this relationship is not the right environment for you.It is important to … [Read more...]

Remember when he was interested in your body – and now you have a sexless marriage? When you first got together, and were madly in love, sex was easy, right, and a priority? Even little disappointments (and little kids) didn’t get in the way! It was as if you were obsessed with this man, and would think about making love as often as he did. Well, almost!So how did you get to this place you find yourselves at now, perhaps going months without sex?How is it that in the beginning, you complained because he was only ever interested in your body – and now you complain because he is never interested in your body?This situation can leave you feeling unloved, anxious, suspicious, and even damage … [Read more...]