Relationships can often be confused because intimate partners don't know how to deal with an avoidant emotional style I experience my negative emotion intensely (the burden of the highly sensitive person) "Once I learned how my adrenalin floods affected everything I did life became much more enjoyable and easier".Have you carefully considered your emotional style? Do you find that you avoid confrontation and difficult conversations? If so, you likely have an avoidant emotional style. Often times two people in a relationship will have different strategies to deal with conflict. Knowing how to manage each will help to improve communication and resolve hurt feelings.I have always gone … [Read more...]
Your Emotional Style
How does your emotional style affect your relationships? There is more than one emotional style ... Which is your emotional style?Aristotle (384-322 BCE) said..."The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness, and the power of contemplation rather than upon mere survival". Mike said..."I learned at great cost to manage my reactive emotional style." Karen said..."I was astonished to discover my avoidant emotional style."There are two emotional styles - avoidant and reactive. Regardless of your gender, you are more likely to display more of one style than the other.Mike and Karen Gosling are married. They are both highly educated and … [Read more...]
Personal Emotions
Are your personal emotions affecting your relationship? Everything in life is about what you feel ... If you're experiencing positive emotions, that's great ... This is a non-problem status. Enjoy your life! If you're feeling negative emotions ... you are emotionally constipated and experiencing the physical effects of negative emotion (stress). Personal emotions represent bodily feelings experienced as arousal of the nervous system. Stress involves an emotional reaction, especially a reaction involving negative emotions. No one else can experience your feelings in the same way that you do. An implication of this fact is you have to be … [Read more...]
How To Grow Emotional Skills
Emotional Development Is All About How To Grow Emotional Skills Growing emotional skills is far more important than any functional skill in achieving peace and calm and your relationship goals By Dr. Mike Gosling, Relationship Coach, Authority in Applying Emotional IntelligenceIf you’re like me, you focus most of your attention on personal growth. You know that developing emotional skills is priority number one. Thinking about career and promotion - That’s just a distraction.But I would venture to say most people are not like me. Most people focus on the functional skills - finance, banking, engineering, medicine, law - one needs to survive and be competitive … [Read more...]
Fight Flight or Freeze – Being Triggered!
The fight or flight response has got a new name. It's now called the fight, flight or freeze response Adding the word freeze is because often, instead of fighting or fleeing, sometimes we tend to freeze (like a deer in the headlights) in stressful situations Fight Flight or Freeze ReactionIn other blog posts I've been telling you about the fight flight or freeze response and how our different Emotional Styles - Reactive or Avoidant - can impact on romance.Reactive people are more inclined to be immediately aggressive (fight) and Avoidant people are more likely to be defensive or withdraw (flee). When triggered, people either - fight flight or freeze.I am talking about freezing or … [Read more...]
The Cold Shoulder
To “give someone the cold shoulder” is to ignore someone deliberately Yet giving your partner the cold shoulder can end up making you feel decidedly sorry for yourself - we feel guilty and suffer from losing one of our social connections when we ostracise a person Are you someone who regularly gives your partner "the cold shoulder"?The information about the avoidant emotional style I've written about in other blog posts is starting to interest you, right?Probably because it resonates, and you easily understand what I have been explaining.Yes, this is one of the most common issues in a disconnected marriage. Each one has a different emotional style. And it … [Read more...]
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