My husband and I are drifting apart Have you ever felt that you and your husband are drifting apart? Have you thought to yourself that your husband doesn’t love you now the same as he did when you first got together, even though you still love him?I guess we have all felt that fear at some time in our relationship – the fear that we love our partner more than he loves us. Ever wondered why it is that you felt safe and secure in the relationship before, but not now? Why you are feeling more distant?Did he bring you flowers before you married – but never since? Perhaps he doesn’t hold your hand or cuddle up to you in bed like he used to? Or maybe he is more … [Read more...]

She withholds affection and avoids intimacy Men crave and need physical affection with their wives. When their wives constantly avoid intimacy, it wears on them.Often women interpret the man’s need for physical affection as their husband “just always wanting sex”, or if their husband is nice to them, “it’s only because he wants sex”. If the wife is tired, let down, feels unsupported or irritated with something that her husband has done, she will likely not be interested in his sexual advances and push him away.When she withholds affection, he interprets this as a rejection of him.Men know, or soon learn, that their wife wants emotional connection, wants to be … [Read more...]

How do I fix my sexless marriage?Do you feel like your life is stretching out before you, devoid of lust or passion? With a man you love, and have great companionship with, just no intimacy?Do you wonder why your marriage is sexless, where (once upon a time, just like in the fairy tales) you shared lots of fulfilling and regular sex? You still dream of it, and even ask for it occasionally. But you can only be rejected so many times, before you stop asking, right?Most men want sex all the time, so why does my man withhold sex?You so often hear from girlfriends that their husbands want sex all the time, and they get sick of it. But you are hurting when THAT topic gets brought up, because you … [Read more...]

Sally asks Karen why her boyfriend won’t commit to herQuestion: FROM SALLYI want to get married but it seems he doesn’t. We have been going out for 3 years now and are seen by friends and family as a couple. He assures me that I am the only girl in his life. But he won’t speak to me about getting married. If I bring up the topic he just goes quiet. And if I insist, we end up arguing.Many of our friends are getting married, but not us!So it makes me wonder sometimes if he has someone else. Why won’t my boyfriend ask me to marry him? Is he a commitment-phobe? Am I fooling myself to think we have a future together?Answer: FROM KARENIt sounds like you are in a relationship with a great guy… you … [Read more...]

Marriage Counsellor Karen Gosling can teach you how to improve your poor communication in relationships to reduce conflict.Phil and Michelle came to counselling to deal with poor communication in their relationship.There was an upsetting incident relating to the time Michelle had been in hospital having their first child. She'd had the baby on a Thursday and Phil said to her on the Friday that the lads at work wanted to take him out to celebrate his son's birth. His work mates had organised a golf day for the Saturday and wanted Phil to come and be the guest of honor so they could take him for a few drinks afterwards to celebrate. Phil was absolutely chuffed and when he told Michelle what … [Read more...]

Marriage Counsellor Karen Gosling can quickly help you identify your partner's primary love language and use it to meet his or her need for love. I refer you to the book, The 5 Love Languages, by Dr. Gary Chapman where he writes, "The desire for romantic love in marriage is deeply rooted in our psychological makeup." The problem is, keeping love alive in our relationship is serious business. And many relationships fail because couples don't know their partner's primary love language. The trick to staving off separation and/or divorce lies in how effectively you and your spouse know and communicate each other's need for love! A counselling client recently did not use these … [Read more...]