Communicating effectively will stop the fightsAlan and Di, who had 2 children under 6, were sick of fighting and decided to separate. They agreed to see a counsellor to facilitate the process, believing that having a mediator would reduce the amount of conflict in their discussions.When the counsellor asked  why they had come, they said straight up, “We want to separate while we can still talk to each other civilly. We both think that’s important, so that we can continue to communicate appropriately and respectfully to each other about the children, as they grow up. We both care how this separation will impact on the kids.”They told the counsellor it was because of the fights they had, the … [Read more...]