Have you felt the pain of separation and divorce? It is usually severe regardless of who asked for the divorce. Want to reduce the hurt and the desire to hurt back?
Separation and divorce take people through a huge range of emotions. You may recognise many of these: shock, relief, sadness, frustration, resentment, fear of the future, guilt, loneliness, depression, bitterness, jealousy, hate, failure and grief. What you will need to consider and what immediate decisions will you need to make?
The pain of a separation and divorce is severe…
The emotional cost on the couple and any children is ongoing. Often there is confusion about appropriate ways to behave toward each other and what to tell the children. Deep seated values about marriage and family are challenged. Feelings of guilt, disbelief, bewilderment, and the desire to hurt back often emerge.
How will counseling help?
I can facilitate the separation and divorce process by respecting and allowing expression of feelings by both parties. Increased understanding by both sides will reduce the hurt felt by each party and decrease the desire to hurt back. I can help establish the basis for mediation and settlement of issues to do with finances and custody of children. If couples don’t really wish to separate or divorce, counselling can help facilitate the rebuilding of your broken relationship.
Learn how the possibility of divorce and separation is one of the most difficult steps in rebuilding your relationship.
When you’re trying to fix your relationship but your emotions are out of control, you will always end up fighting. Knowing your emotional style will help you understand why you behave like you do. It’s time to get some professional help.
You can change this today.
I can help you to:
- Lay the groundwork for building emotional skills to achieve a high level of peace and calm within yourself.
- Know your emotional style – the fight or flight response – and how you react in emotional situations.
- Understand your emotional brain – learn how your brain affects your personal emotions.