4. Romance
Romance is definitely about creating – or resurrecting – intimacy, at all levels.
In her book Good Loving Great Sex, Dr. Rosie King spells Intimacy as it is pronounced: “In-to-me-see” – which describes quite simply what intimacy is. It is about letting your partner know/see inside of you.
To rekindle this romance is to resurrect or re-create emotional, intellectual, physical, spiritual, recreational and sexual intimacy. In my counselling, I give you strategies to do just that.
Sexual intimacy is not the whole of romance, but is certainly an important aspect, so needs to be addressed. Men and women prefer different types of sexual touch, and this too is discussed in the program, as are various types of sexual engagement. Even connected partners differ in their desire for sexual activity at different times and solutions to this, to keep everyone happy, are suggested.
Romance is about treating each other with kindness and respect. It is about putting the other person first, and showing care and compassion. It is about feeling connected and secure in the relationship, feeling a desire for sexual intimacy, knowing you can initiate or be a willing participant, and your sexual needs and wants will be respected.