Do you often jump into "advice mode" too quickly? Often your partner doesn't need advice; they need emotional support. When they don't get it communication problems start with an argument.
The reason there are many problems in relationships is that we just don't understand each other. Men want to be provider and protector and women want communication and emotional stability. You'll often hear your partner say, "You're not listening to me!" or "Why don't you talk to me?"
Communication problems in relationships arise because people have different communication needs. Women typically need to talk more, men to think more. Some people need to talk to feel “connected” to their partner, others find talking irritating or stressful, especially if arguments are common. The consequence of these variations is that someone usually feels hurt. Unless that hurt is resolved, communication can become negative and attacking, sarcastic or barbed.
Become aware of communication patterns…
Become aware of how each of you in the relationship communicates and why, and learn how to safely disclose even old hurts to your partner.
Knowing how to improve communication skills is one of the most important steps in rebuilding your relationship.
Knowing about the major communication problems will help you understand why you behave like you do. It’s time to get some professional help.
You can change this today.
I can help you to:
- Lay the groundwork for building emotional skills to achieve a high level of peace and calm within yourself.
- Know your emotional style – the fight or flight response – and how you react in emotional situations.
- Understand your emotional brain – learn how your brain affects your personal emotions.