Do you feel angry or have anger issues a lot of the time? Anger is a normal, healthy response to a threat and may be used for a constructive purpose. Anger issues arise from a reactive emotional style and may lead to destructive thoughts or actions. Are you a person who is angry a lot of the time or has anger issues? Have you been waiting to learn more about the Fight (Reactive) type of person? Is that you? Are you married to someone who has anger issues, is often frustrated or irritated - someone who has a reactive emotional style? Someone who can explode without warning - like a "bomb"!Is it killing your romance?Do you want to know more about why they are like … [Read more...]
Feeling Frustrated And Unloved…
Are you feeling frustrated and unloved by your partner? Do you feel wounded and misunderstood when he says, "Stop sulking!" If you are feeling frustrated and unloved or taken for granted, right now, then I want to share this story with you...My name is Karen and thirty years ago, my husband Mike and I owned a 76 acre (30 hectare) rolling hills sheep property in the Adelaide Hills, South Australia. It was a beautiful place with two dams and stocked with around 100 Border Leicester ewes, which lambed every spring.When we bought the property it had no internal fencing, so Mike drew up a design for the various paddocks and we set about putting up the … [Read more...]
Stop groping me
Do you object to your man squeezing your boobs from behind? Have you felt kind of manhandled? Have you told him to "STOP groping me!" Is it appropriate to put up with your husband's inappropriate behavior because it's the only way you can get a hug or kiss from him? Pat would often come up behind Bev whilst she was working in the kitchen and give her a big hug from behind and reach around and squeeze her boobs. Bev thought she was meant to enjoy this affection from Pat, but actually she was irritated by it. Especially when she was in the middle of preparing dinner and her mind was a long way from sexual activity. But she never told him, "Stop groping me!" She never said anything to Pat, … [Read more...]
Talk On Adult ADD
I don't know what my focus should be in this hour talk on Adult ADD Should I tell them all the negatives or all the GOOD things on Adult ADD? I have been asked to talk on Adult ADD next week to a group of mental health professionals (mainly psychologists and social workers, possibly some GPs or psychiatrists). I have an hour. And my dilemma is, I don't know what my focus should be in this hour. I could tell them about the neurobiology of Attention Deficit Disorder, how it really is a neurological condition and it really does impact on the way a person thinks and behaves. I could show them diagrams of the brain and the faulty thought patterns that arise due … [Read more...]
Putting Up Fences – Putting Out Fires
5 Days later and fed up with the silence, Mike asked me, "So when are we going to start speaking again?" I said, "You know very well what you've done. I'm wounded because you yelled at me." I had dwelt on it so many times since last Sunday. Thirty years ago, Mike and I owned a 76 acre (30 hectare) rolling hills sheep property in the Adelaide Hills, South Australia. It was a beautiful place with two dams and stocked with around 100 Border Leicester ewes, which lambed every spring. When we bought the property it had no internal fencing, so Mike drew up a design for the various paddocks and we set about putting up the fences - putting out fires. One Sunday, the two of us worked all day … [Read more...]